Opportunists Really Piss Me Off

Post by Teri @ Snarkfest

There’s something that really chaps my ass and I just can’t keep quiet about it any longer.  I know a lot of people who have cried poor over the years. And I know some of them really are in need, I totally get that. I’m not judging these people who are really down and out, nor am I degrading them in any way. However, there is a certain type of person who very well may be poor but this type of person repeatedly comes out on top of most things only because people feel sorry for them and give them things that by rights they should earn on their own. While it doesn’t affect me, it affects those people that I truly care about, and it’s time I got this off my chest, so here goes.

There’s this girl, we’ll call her Beulah. Beulah had gotten herself in a bad way. But ever the trooper, Beulah did what she needed to do, and now has an offspring. Beulah was a single mother relying on her parents to help her out. She also relied on her friends. A lot. But not for what you might think. She didn’t rely on those friends to help her financially take care of her offspring (let’s call him Paco). She didn’t rely on those friends to help pay for Paco’s clothes, schooling, food, etc. No, she depended on these friends to get her into things: clubs, shows, concerts, all the places that responsible adults pay to get to themselves. But not Beulah.
Beulah sees an opportunity to take advantage and jumps on it. Now, I know that the early bird catches the worm and you have to carpe the diem and seize the day and all that bullshit, but there’s a big difference between taking the bull by the horns to get what you want, and getting others to get it for you. And that’s what pisses me off. Here’s a great example of what I’m talking about.

Recently, Beulah ran into more financial difficulties (again). So Beulah’s amazing, and generous friends started helping her out. They asked others to help out too. Let’s be honest, when you see that a stranger is in need, of course the right and just thing to do is to help out. However, what Beulah’s friends (and these poor unsuspecting strangers) THINK she’s going to do with the money, and what she’s actually PLANNING on doing with the money are two very different things. I’m not psychic, but I do follow things on the old innerwebz. This ain’t my first time at the rodeo. I know that while Beulah is making everyone and their mother aware that people are collecting money for her, she’s also got her eye on things she’s already planning on buying with this money. Things that, SURPRISE! have nothing whatsoever to do with helping Paco (unless Paco wants to listen to old vinyl or hang posters)

Need more proof? Several years ago, Beulah took up a collection for one of our mutual friends for her birthday gift. Sadly, our mutual friend NEVER. SAW. A. DIME. of that money. That money was spent on concert tickets, or gas to get to the concert, or a new outfit for the concert. But not for our mutual friend. NO, that was spent by Beulah.

This type of person, an opportunist, annoys the shit out of me. Honestly, it aggravates me to no end. Want another example? Years ago I worked in Atlantic City. At that time, one of the people in my department (let’s call her Hortense) called into the office to say that her son had been killed in a car accident. We were all shocked and saddened at this. Her son was about 8 years old. It was tragic and awful and we all took up a collection for Hortense, as we knew she didn’t have much and thought money would be better than flowers to get through a funeral and a horrible time in her life. We collected close to $1000 and gave it to her. Hortense was grateful.  A few days later, someone from our department called her house to check to see how she was coping, how she was dealing with this tragedy. She didn’t answer, but her mother did. Her mother informed us that Hortense’s son had NOT, in fact, died in a tragic car accident. The boy was right there in the room with her and that Hortense was at work. When we explained to Hortense’s mother what had transpired, and that Hortense was NOT, in fact, at work, she apologized, horribly embarrassed at what Hortense had done. That was the last time we ever heard anything about Hortense.

So you see, people can be sneaky and underhanded and that makes me sick. I earn my money, if I am facing hard times, I don’t expect others to give me money to get through. I don’t expect others to give me money to go to movies, concerts, trips, etc. If I can’t afford it myself, I’m not expecting others to foot the bill for me. People who DO this, without guilt, with no conscience, irritate me.


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18 comments:

  1. I can relate to that....we all cringe at the ones who simply take advantage of us all.

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    1. Drives me batshit crazy, Michelle!!

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  2. Yes! Yes! and Yes! I love the names btw:) I say we go egg her car.

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    1. I've got a dozen smelly old eggs, A! I'll pick you up on the way!

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  3. My brother's wife is a lot like this! They are the "good" Catholics that have 7 kids and instead of thanking God that they were able to have 7 kids - they say, "See? Aren't we "good" Catholics because we have 7 kids but we're soooo poor" OK - I get it and I love my nieces and nephews (and my brother) so we all help them out and they have a flat screen tv in every room (apparently necessities), they get tickets to every single local college football game given to them (I haven't been able to afford to go in 2 years because I am a single mom - my husband died - and money spent on football tickets is not a priority), every single stick of their furniture has been given to them by someone (and it ain't crappy stuff like what I scrimp and save to get!) All of this would be fine without the constant reminder that they are so "good" for having 7 kids and I'm the sucky Catholic that could only have 3!! UGH! Don't get me started...oh wait, I'm done!! Sorry!

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  4. Totally feel ya, Kelly! Very frustrating!

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  5. I know some people like that. Can't pay rent or put gas in their car, but have all the beer and cigs one could handle.

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    1. Pisses me off, Toby. Makes me sick!

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  6. I hear ya. It's one thing when it's done for the right reasons. When people play the system and play their friends over and over....it's aggravating. And I love the names too!

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    1. I'm good with naming names, EJ!

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  7. Anonymous9/30/2013

    Lately, I have been scanning the kijiji want ads in my area looking for moms in need as I have an abundance of baby items that we no longer need. My favorite was the lady who was asking for all/any major baby items for free because she was so hard up. I replied asking what she had found through the ad and what she still needed...then the reply came back with the little "sent from my iPhone" tag at the bottom....

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    1. ARGH!!!!!!! So frustrating!!

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  8. donnamacy9/30/2013

    That isn't an "opportunist"....it's called "scammer".

    ....and I remember "Hortense".

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    1. I knew you'd remember her, Donna!

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  9. It's just so unfortunate that there are people who actually live in this terrible way. They have a system set up in their heads, and they know how to use it to abuse others, so that they end up paying for nothing whilst they get everything. They have a gold medal in 'crying poverty'.
    That woman must have been real desperate to say her son died, knowing that it would only be a matter of time before the truth was released. They should have taken her for a walk to the police station... or the nearest mental health facility. You just can't be in the right frame of mind to say your son is dead when he is alive and kicking.

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    1. Oh, I forgot to add something. Please be aware of the bloggers who also ask people for money to help them or to help another blogger. It's happened to me (although I refused to part with my cash) and the more I searched for answers, the more the story unfolded into a lie/scam/con. Some people have no shame.

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    3. Honey, I am so tight with money that sometimes I squeak when I walk. ;)

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